Stop trying to “confront” your narcissist
Trust me; that closure you want isn’t worth it.
Narcissism has been a hot topic for years now, and for good reason. To put it simply, narcs are a nuisance — physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. They’ll threaten to take everything you care about, destroy your self-esteem, turn your closest friends against you, and manage to dole out absolute terror while maintaining their coveted, sparkling-clean reputation. (The smart ones will, anyway.)
Former victims and recovering perpetrators have popped up all over social media to teach us how to identify, mitigate, and escape common toxic behaviors inherent to narcissism. Most people who come in contact with narcissists want to escape them; that’s why these accounts blow up. But this one type of question always makes it into the comments section, for some reason, and it scares the hell out of me:
“I got out of an abusive relationship. How do I confront my narcissist? How do I make him mad and apologize?”
Make him? Sis, you can’t “make” a narc do anything!
Listen. I understand the desire for schadenfreude. I wish I could tell you there was some sure-fire way to catch a narc in the act, make them pay, or get revenge. Unfortunately, I am writing this post to share one simple message with…
